Homosexuality is commonly believed to bring nothing but problems into a man's life—from the disapproval of others and loss of social status to the difficulty of finding his place in the world. However, the creator of the GayUnmasked YouTube channel Approves, argues that having to go through these challenges forces a person to adapt and develop skills that eventually become powerful advantages.
Rejecting the “default” life path
Most people unconsciously follow society's template: they grow up, get a girlfriend, marry, buy a house, and become fathers. Because of his identity, a gay man has to define who he is much earlier than others. This forces him to stop and consider whether he truly wants to follow the prescribed path or would rather consciously forge his own.
Instead of automatically adopting the attitudes of his parents and those around him, a person begins asking himself fundamental questions: who he wants to be, what relationships mean to him, whether he wants a family, and what values guide him.
This experience of making conscious choices later extends to every other area of life—career, physical well-being, where to live, and whom to spend time with. The experience of rejection as preparation for business and career
Coming out and departing from widely accepted norms inevitably involve facing other people's judgment, jokes, and rejection. To cope with this, a person has to develop inner mental frameworks for resilience.
Over time, this ability to overcome negativity begins to work in every aspect of life. Someone who has learned to cope with the fear of being rejected because of his sexual orientation finds it much easier to handle rejection at work and in business, makes calls fearlessly, goes on dates with ease, and does not lose his composure when he is ignored.
Со временем этот навык преодоления негатива начинает работать во всех жизненных аспектах. Человек, научившийся справляться со страхом неприятия из-за своей ориентации, намного проще переносит отказы в работе и бизнесе, бесстрашно совершает звонки, с легкостью ходит на свидания и не выбивается из колеи, если его игнорируют.
Breaking Stereotypes and Turning Alienation into a Superpower
When someone comes out and defies one of society's major expectations, they realize that “the universe hasn't collapsed.” This brings an understanding that they are under no obligation to meet other people's expectations. They gain the freedom to question any conventional rules and follow their own intuition.
Even social alienation and the feeling of being “different” can be turned into an advantage. Rather than succumbing to loneliness and complaining about life, being an outsider gives you the freedom to choose your own path and critically assess what is happening around you.
Everyday Compatibility and Practical Benefits
A relationship between two men also offers purely practical advantages. Because the partners have the same type of body and share an emotional world they both understand, it is much easier for them to find common ground and live together without having to make major compromises.
“В таких парах отсутствуют бытовые разногласия по поводу «женских вещей» в ванной, значительно проще согласовывать досуг (например, выбор между поездинкой в Диснейленд или на футбол), а также появляется приятный бонус в виде удвоенного гардероба за счет возможности носить одежду друг друга. Кроме того, мужчины объективно ухаживают за собой и выглядят привлекательно”, – говорит блогер.
Rejecting the Victim Mentality and the Rules of the “Chess Game”
Although homosexuality comes with genuine challenges, Sigurd urges people not to adopt a victim mentality if they live in a country where being gay is legal. In his view, instead of complaining about their lot in life, people should take responsibility for their own lives, go to the gym, improve their fitness, and develop their social skills.
Comparing life to a game of chess, the author notes that there is no point in demanding that the rules of the game be changed. The only right approach is to make the best possible moves on the board, stand by your values to the end, and turn any problems that arise into challenges that can and must be overcome.
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