Why is it so difficult to find "your own"? Confessions of "elaborate" gays in the new issue of Gay Talk

Have you ever felt that the more you focus on self-improvement, the smaller your social circle becomes? When your usual hangouts at gay bars start to feel stale, and the search for “the one” turns into a quest to find a needle in a haystack?

In the new issue Gay Talk From snow-covered New York, Coach Andy and sexual liberation expert Oleg brought up topics that people in our community often prefer to keep quiet about.

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Andy talked about how, Where Are the "High-Quality" Men Hiding?. If you're tired of Grindr, maybe it's time to change up your scene. The speakers discuss why it's easier to meet "high-energy" gay men at Tony Robbins' business forums or Joe Dispenza's retreats than in a dark club room.

Andy talked about whether there’s a risk of becoming so self-aware that you’ll have no one left to talk to—and how to avoid turning into “Lady Gaga,” from whom everyone expects something but no one is willing to give anything in return.

Andy and Oleg also discussed why trying to “pour your heart out” on a first date kills sexual attraction. They discussed the theory that sex requires alpha energy, while talking about problems turns a potential lover into a “client” or “buddy.”

This episode also offers an honest look at the issue of substance use in the gay community. How do you build relationships when most people around you are “high,” and is it really possible to find friends with whom you can have sober, meaningful conversations?

And about why “connecting” comes more naturally in Latin America or Asia, while New York or Moscow can send you into a dopamine slump.