From OnlyFans to Experts: How Former Porn Actors Began Treating Gay Trauma (and Why It's Dangerous)

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I noticed one important feature among LGBT bloggers who yesterday were ordinary, but a friend suddenly became sexologists, sex experts, or the most unsuccessful moved to travel bloggers. Why do we need losers, so I will focus on the first two. Yesterday they were still filming content for OnlyFans with a "bottom, up and ceiling" angle, and today they are already broadcasting with a serious face about "bodily connection", "conscious sexuality" and "toxic masculinity in the gay community". All this with the same intonation with which they used to speak "Another double, only this time without Gondon".

And the funniest thing is that they really believe that the audience will not notice a sharp change in role. Like: there was a guy who showed everyone his anus close-up for two years, and now he is suddenly a guru who will treat us from the "inner homophobe" and tell us why sniffing sneakers is normal, and digs from the end of the stir. As if no one knew this before him.

И спрос-то, между прочим, никуда не делся. 80% переписок всё так же крутятся вокруг трёх вечных тем:  

• "Small or not?" (with a mandatory photo in a personal message "for comparison"),  
• "What if I have something scary?" (followed by a photo of a pimple on the scrotum),  
• "How to survive a breakup at a distance of 3000 km" (spoiler: no way, my boy, don't get into this shit anymore).

And these newly-minted "sexologists" feed on these fears and complexes. The business model is ingenious in its simplicity: first through a big penis, graft the kits, then treat. Only now, instead of lubricant, you sell a coaching session for 120 euros and a course "How to love your penis the size of a flash drive".

It turns out to be such a vicious cycle: a former actor → suddenly a sexologist → makes money on the same complexes. Only now with a beautiful, dark background background, the soft light of a ring lamp and with clever quotes.

And you know what's the saddest part? It works. Because the audience wants the same thing: for someone to finally convincingly tell them that everything is fine with them. Even if this someone made good money yesterday precisely by convincing them of the opposite.

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And the funniest thing is not even in the rebranding itself, but in how quickly they begin to look down on everyone else.  

And then the pure theater of one actor begins:  

1. Lectures on the "importance of boundaries" from a man who was shown 15 acts yesterday
2. posts about the "rejection trauma" from someone who blocked others just for their appearance
3. Endless carousels about "self-love" from a guy who still has "Top only, no fats no fems" from 2022 hanging in his bio  

At the same time, the demand for "experts" is huge precisely because the audience is mostly the same: insecure boys of 20-28 years old, who are afraid at the same time that they have a small penis, and that they are "too feminine", or that they are "not queer enough", and that they will never be truly loved.

And then a newly-minted sexologist-expert-ex-comes and says:  

"It's okay, it's society that traumatized you, it's not you, it's heteronormativity and toxic masculinity."  

And they are as follows: "Oh my God, finally someone understood my pain" — and bring him donations and subscriptions to "deep content".

Scheme of the weaving.

And most importantly, almost no one remembers who you were before.  

Because on gay Twitter, the memory is short, and the desire to hear "everything is okay with you" is eternal.

So in short: former people do not become sexologists. They just change the way they monetize those same complexes.  Only now, instead of "show me yours", they say "tell me about your trauma".  

And the essence is the same. 

P.S. If suddenly one of them reads it, respect for the rebranding, guys. The main thing is not to forget to write at the end: "This is not a medical consultation, consult a doctor".